Research on the effects of divorce on children has shown that it is not the divorce but the way you divorce that impacts on children. The way you divorce can also have a significant impact on the emotional, financial and legal costs of divorce.
The message from the media, and even family and friends is that divorces are fought in court. Many family law lawyers in your area
agree that going to Court is not the preferred method of resolution and is probably the last thing most people really want. There are a range of alternative methods available that do not involve Courts. At the heart of all of these alternatives is the principle of helping you to maintain control, leaving the decision making in your hands and holding out the prospect of reduced conflict, expense and time. So what are the alternatives?
Collaborative Family Practice
This process helps separating and divorcing couples to resolve their differences respectfully, together in private and without the threat of court action. Specially trained Collaborative lawyers, Counsellors and Financial Planners, provide a safe environment in which positions are defused and goals developed.
This process helps separating and divorcing couples to reach mutual decisions with the aid of a neutral professional Mediator. The Mediator facilitates communication and helps to identify issues and explore available options. The Mediator cannot offer legal advice, or speak on behalf of either party.
This enables separating and divorcing couples to retain lawyers to reach agreements for them, generally by “round the table” meetings. Each party can put forward what he or she believes is fair and reasonable outcome, with the assistance of their lawyer. Thereafter, the parties negotiate those positions and proposals usually at ‘round the table’ meetings, until an acceptable resolution is found.
Which is the best option for you?
There may not be an alternative to separation, but the way you divorce and react may be your choice. Collaborative professionals will be able help you choose the method that is most appropriate for, and your family.
Find out more about Collaborative Family Practice by contacting a specially trained collaborative lawyer in your area
who is willing and able to assist you.